Thursday, November 25, 2010

The end


I know I have been a slacker with the posting lately. There is a reason, though.

I ended my 3 yr. 4 mo. relationship last night.

It just wasn't working. We've been down this road before. It got to that point again where he was doing and saying nice things because he knew something was wrong. I felt like I gave and gave and never received anything in return. It felt like we were better friends than in a relationship.

It still hurts. Why do I feel like the bad guy? Why do I feel like people are judging me?

13 comments:

tec2030 said...

You shouldn't feel like the bad guy if it isn't working. It's just the way you feel, and you shouldn't ever be ashamed or "the bad guy" because of how you're feeling.

It will get better. :)

micka said...

Heather, you and he tried several times to make it work. Several. Over and over. You didn't just give up on Each other. There was prior knowledge that things were wrong. And when things didn't change, you acknowledged that and had to move on. You didn't do anything wrong. <3

Heather said...

<3's you both

Hayley said...

I know how you're feeling. It sucks, but it will pass. Don't feel like the bad guy. You were just doing what needed to be done. Email me if you ever want to talk or vent! theblueeyedblonde@me.com

Heather said...

Thank you, Hayley :)

Jaime said...

No matter how many times you go through it, it will always hurt. It's sad when you realize that you're better friends than you are partners, but at least you don't hate each other at the end. Even so, there will be a period of grief and anger and probably some hate, but it goes away.

Heather said...

Jamie, I guess I'm also sad that we tried and it didn't work

Ups Downs All Arounds said...

Heather, honey...

There comes a time when you have to stand up and shout:

"This is me damn it! I look the way I look, think the way I think, feel the way I feel, love the way I love!

I am a whole complex package. Take me... or leave me. Accept me - or walk away! Do not try to make me feel like less of a person, just because I don't fit your idea of who I should be and don't try to change me to fit your mold.

If I need to change, I alone will make that decision."

I know you are strong enough to love yourself 100%, good and bad. I know you have that confidence to know that the decisions you make are for yourself is the absolute best. You will be amazed at the opportunities that life presents you.

Big Hugs! (I'm always here, Heather-bear!)

Lauren

Heather said...

Lauren, thank you so much :)

Linda said...

hi dear,
so sorry to hear. i think it's a bit harder to end the relationship instead of being broken up with because the pressure of making that right decision and takes a lot of courage to follow through. bravo for the courage. you can get through this!
- linda
http://linda.curious-notions.net

Heather said...

Linda- thank you so much for being an awesome friend :)

Pam said...

You did the right thing. If it felt right to you to move on, then you are not the bad guy - just going with your gut. I know you will find someone amazing and perfect for you. Cuz you are pretty awesome...

Heather said...

Pam- <3