Monday, September 27, 2010

Do things really change?

I took this picture yesterday in Church. It belonged to the teenage girl sitting in front of me. When I saw this, it instantly brought back memories of middle school and friends. I remember when I had my friends sign my bags and such. All I could think was that I hoped she found amazing, lifelong friends who love, care and are there for her.

It also made me think about where those people are now and what they are doing with their life. I was never part of the popular crows in school. I didn't really even have a group (although I wad in band and choir). I was more of a loner. The movie The Social Network comes out this week. I really want to watch it. I recently went through my friend list on Facebook and deleted people I'm not really friends with. My thing is, if you weren't my friend in high school, why do you want to be friends now? For some reason, I still had a hard time deleting people. I know I need to go through again and delete more people. Why do I feel the need to keep people in my life that mean nothing to me? Why do I feel like adding them to my Facebook will make me feel better/more popular?

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Pam said...

I know how you feel. I went through a month or so ago and deleted about 80 people - all old high school people I don't talk to anymore. Then a month later they are requesting to be my friend again. I felt guilty and accepted their friend request.

I think we need to be strong and really evaluate who we want to be friends will and bring into our lives. Who we want influencing us.

Some just have hundreds of friends to show how 'popular' they are. I don't think that is a good way to do it. Peopl you would actually talk to are the better ones to have.

Alison said...

I don't understand people that have thousands of Facebook friends. You cannot tell me that you really know all of them!

I'm friends with a lot of people from high school, but I only left two years ago. I'm sure that as time goes on, though, I'll weed some out. Like those girls that I wasn't cool enough for in high school but cool enough for them to friend request me. Huh?

Heather said...

@Alison- yeah, that's how I feel. It's like, what makes me good enough now?

@Pam- I never understood the thousands of friends thing either. I had someone ask me once "Do you really know 200 (or however many friends I had at that time). It really made me think "Yeah, I know 200 hundred people but am I really friends with them?" Really makes you think.

Jaime said...

I have the same problem with the facebook page. I have so many people from high school that request me, and I add them, that weren't my friend in school. Granted, none of us disliked each other per se, it was more like we never hung out, we were in different cliques. And now they're all up in my facebook. And I don't have the balls to 'ignore'.